बच्चों की जिद या हठ का क्या समाधान हो सकता है?
बच्चे हमारे घर-परिवार ही नहीं बल्कि राष्ट्र की शान होते हैं और जिन पारिवारिक एवं सामाजिक दायित्वों को आज हम निभा रहे हैं उन्हें भविष्य में उनके द्वारा निभाया जाना है।
यानी बच्चे भी बड़े होने पर उन्हीं जिम्मेदारियों का बोझ उठाएंगे जिनका बोझ आज हम उठा रहे हैं।
इसीलिए यह अनिवार्य बन जाता है कि हम अपने बच्चों को इस काबिल बना दें कि जब वे बड़े हों तो अपनी जिम्मेदारियों को हंसकर निभा सकें।
बच्चों को कर्तव्यपरायण, जिम्मेदार और परिश्रमी तथा प्रगतिशील नागरिक के रूप में हम तभी देख सकते हैं जब हम शुरू से ही उन्हें इन सब चीजों का ज्ञान दें अथवा उनमें इन अच्छे गुणों का विकस करें।
यहां हम बच्चों की एक ऐसी सामान्य समस्या तथा उसके समाधान के तरीकों पर चर्चा करने जा रहे हैं जो उनमें इस प्रकार के गुणों के विकास में बहुत बड़ी बाधक बनती है।
वह समस्या है उनमें जिद या हठ का भाव विद्यमान होना।
बच्चों में जिद या हठ का भाव कई कारणों से पनपता है।
१) बहुत अधिक लाड-प्यार या बहुत अधिक उपेक्षा
बच्चों के प्रति आवश्यकता से अधिक प्यार दिखाना या फिर उनसे प्यार करने के बजाय हमेशा उनकी उपेक्षा करना दोनों स्थितियां बहुत खराब होती हैं।
अत्यधिक प्यार, यहां हमारा मतलब है कि आवश्यकता से अधिक प्यार बच्चे में जिद का भाव पैदा कर देता है, तथा वह अपनी आवश्यक-अनावश्यक इच्छाओं को पूरी कराने के मां-बाप को बाध्य करने लगता है।
अगर वे मना करें तो जिद या हठ करने लगता है।
इसी प्रकार यदि किसी बच्चे को मां-बाप या घर-परिवार वालों का भरपूर प्यार नहीं मिल पाता या वह उनकी उपेक्षा का शिकार बनता है तो उसमें घृणा, ईर्ष्या, हीनता, भय आदि की भावनाएं घर कर जाती हैं और इस वज़ह से भी जिद करने लगता है।
ऐसी स्थिति में उसका स्वभाव झगड़ालू भी हो जाता है।
इसीलिए मां-बाप या अभिभावक आदि इस बात पर पूरा ध्यान दें कि उनके प्रत्येक बच्चे को उनका पूरा मगर संतुलित प्यार अवश्य मिले और प्यार के अभाव के कारण उनमें कोई मानसिक विकृति पैदा न हो पाए।
२) अपनी मन मर्जी करने की खुली आजादी
मनुष्य जीवन में अनुशासन का बहुत अधिक महत्व होता है और इस अनुशासन को बचपन से ही सिखाया जाए तो भविष्य में इसके शानदार परिणाम देखने को मिलते हैं।
अनुशासन को बच्चों पर बोझ कभी नहीं समझना चाहिए, क्योंकि अनुशासन की राह पर चलकर ही वे भविष्य में कुछ बन सकते हैं या फिर कामयाब हो सकते हैं।
बच्चों को आजादी अवश्य दें पर इतनी खुली आजादी कभी नहीं दें कि वे अनुशासन हीन होकर कुछ भी करें।
अपनी मन मर्जी के मालिक बनकर कहीं भी घूमें-फिरें।
अगर उनकी आजादी पर अनुशासन की डोर नहीं होती तो वे कई तरह की गलत आदतों का शिकार बन जाते हैं और उनमें से एक गलत आदत उनकी जिद या हठ भी हो सकती है।
इसका एक कारण यह भी है कि बच्चों को बड़ों की तरह भले-बुरे में फर्क करना तो आता नहीं है इसलिए वे अपनी आज़ादी का फायदा उठाकर गलत गतिविधियों की तरफ आकर्षित हो सकते हैं और अच्छाई की जगह बुराई का रास्ता अपना सकते हैं।
३) बच्चों के प्रति भेदभावपूर्ण रवैया
बच्चों के प्रति सदा ऐसा व्यवहार करना चाहिए कि उनमें किसी प्रकार का मनोविकार पैदा न हो और उनके भावात्मक विकास को सही दिशा मिल सके।
कुछ लोग पारिवारिक कलह, आर्थिक तंगहाली या किन्हीं अन्य कारणों से बच्चों के प्रति भेदभावपूर्ण रवैया इख्तियार कर लेते हैं और इसी कारण बच्चों में बडों के प्रति ईर्ष्या भाव पैदा हो जाता है।
यही ईर्ष्या या वैर की भावना बच्चों में जिद या हठ का कारण बनती है। अतः बच्चों के प्रति कभी भी भेदभावपूर्ण रवैया नहीं करना चाहिए।
४) किसी भी प्रकार की मानसिक विकृति
बच्चों के समग्र या संपूर्ण मानसिक विकास के लिए उचित या अनुकूल पारिवारिक व सामाजिक माहौल की जरूरत पड़ती है।
यदि इस माहौल में किसी तरह की खामियां होती हैं तो बच्चों में कई प्रकार की मानसिक विकृतियां पनप जाने का खतरा रहता है।
उनमें कुछ प्रमुख विकृतियां हैं- क्रोध, हीनता, भय, लालच, ईर्ष्या आदि कुभावनाएं।
जब बच्चे में इस तरह की कुंठाएं पनप जाती हैं तो उसके स्वभाव में जिद या हठ का समावेश स्वतः ही हो जाता है।
इसीलिए माता-पिता, अभिभावकों आदि को बच्चों को सदैव ऐसा अनुकूल या उचित माहौल प्रदान करना चाहिए जिसमें रह कर उनका बेहतर मानसिक या भावात्मक विकास हो सके और वे आचार-व्यवहार की कमजोरियों से बचे रह सकें।
५) आधुनिक सुविधाओं का शौक या लत
आजकल मोबाइल फोन, टेलीविजन, कंप्यूटर, इंटरनेट आदि अनेक ऐसी आधुनिक सुविधाएं हैं जिनके बल पर मनुष्य ने काफी उन्नति की है।
इन सब सुविधाओं की सबसे बड़ी बात यह है कि अगर हम इनका जरूरत के अनुसार प्रयोग करते हैं तो ये हमारी उन्नति में सहयोग देते हैं और यदि इनका अनावश्यक रूप से प्रयोग करते हैं या इनके आदी हो जाते हैं तो ये हमारे लिए नुकसानदेह साबित होते हैं।
इनके अत्यधिक प्रयोग के कारण लोग कई प्रकार के घातक रोगों का शिकार बन जाते हैं।
जब बडों का ये हाल होता है तो सोचो बच्चों पर इनका कितना गंभीर प्रभाव पड़ता होगा।
बच्चे इनके संपर्क में ज्यादा समय गुजरेंगे तो निश्चय ही इनके आदी हो जाएंगे और कई प्रकार की शारीरिक व मानसिक विकृतियां पैदा हो जाएंगी।
अतः बच्चों को इनका आदी कभी न बनने दें, क्योंकि अगर वे इनके आदी हो गए तो इनके इस्तेमाल के लिए जिद या हठ पर उतर आएंगे।
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